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Thursday, November 09, 2006

Relationship - a 2 ways communication

i visited a 'friend' (in fact i never meet him personally, just drop by his blog quite often before) blog today after a long time. Well, he seem having some problems with his girlfriend now. I noticed that there is one paragraph of confession that i feel so much wanted to share here.

01) 我告诉你的弱点, 你说你不了解你.
i told you about your weaknesses, you said that i am not understanding you

02) 我告诉你的问题, 你说是我引成的.
i told you about yor problem, you said that that i am the one who caused it

03) 我不挖苦因为我不想记得一些不快乐事情, 你觉得我是逃避问题.
i did not critic because i dont want to recall some unhappy business, but you said that i am escaping problem

04) 你说你说过就算了, 可是你都一直都那么介意.
you said that you always not take into heart what you said, but you actually taking them so hard

05) 我不高兴的反应, 你说我给你一种压力.
i not happy, you said that i am giving you pressure

06) 你不高兴的反应, 因为你说是你的性格.
you not happy, you said thats your personality


Well, of course thats only one side words, I need to know what happened from the girl's perspective as well, before i make any judgement. Anyway, if what he mentioned there is true, then we can see here, communication will never success with one way message transmission. Relationship is a two ways communication. We can never hope that someone in this world can understand us perfectly. Yup, you may feel guy A is understand you more than girl B, but i ensure you, if another matter happens, you might find out girl B is more tolerating you than guy A.

I always think that, a good communication build good relationship. However, it seem that most people now-a-days are more concerning on their own feel than how others feel. if noticed carefully, its not hard to find person which described in (05) and (06) above : I can be not happy, but you cannot. Well, dont blame on others not understanding you if you never try to understand them. This make yourself look so naive and unreasonable.

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