刚刚读到一片文章，内容说到追女孩子除了要有技巧之外，更重要是时时保有绅士风度。而这种绅士风度不能太刻意，否则就会很假。不管女孩子是美是丑，是胖是瘦，都应该一视同仁，不然就会造成反效果，变成势利小人，只奉承美女了。而能表现绅士风度的行为包括为女孩子开门（特别强调是每一道门，包括车门，甚至是女孩子自己家的门），为女孩拉椅子，逛街时走在靠近马路的一边（万一有车祸会先撞倒自己，女孩子有时间逃走；或者如果自己反应够快还可以英雄救美）等等等。。。
看到这里其实心里有些感慨，因为这几项都是我好想做却做不到的。虽然说还有很多比较内敛的方法可以展现绅士风度，但往往比不上这些‘看得到的行动’可以给女孩子留下更直接且深刻的印象。
爱一个人难，要让一个我爱的人爱我，更难。。。
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Thursday, January 25, 2007
The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make With Women
The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make With Women
By David DeAngelo
MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much Of A "Nice Guy"
Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted “nice” guys?
Of course you have.
Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date “jerks”... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.
What's going on here?
It's actually very simple...
Women don't base their choices of men on how “nice” a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.
And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.
I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT.
Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want.
MISTAKE #2: Trying To "Convince Her To Like You"
What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just not interested?
Right! They try to “convince” the woman to feel differently.
Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN “FEELS” WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, EVER.
You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with “logic and reasoning”.
Think about it.
If a woman doesn't “feel it” for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being “reasonable” with her?
But we all do it.
When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.
Bad idea. One that will never work.
MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission
In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's “approval” or “permission”.
Another HORRIBLE idea.
Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER.
Don't get me wrong here.
You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.
But if you think that treating a woman well means “always getting her approval and permission for things”, think again.
You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.
Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her...
MISTAKE #4: Trying To "Buy" Her Affection With Food And Gifts
How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did?
If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT.
Well guess what?
It's only NATURAL when this happens...
That's right, I said NATURAL.
When you do these things, you send a clear message:
“I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection”.
Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.
MISTAKE #5: Sharing "How You Feel" Too Early In The Relationship With Her
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they “feel” too early on.
Attractive women are rare.
And they get a LOT of attention from men.
Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME.
An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.
And guess what?
Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.
That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying “You know, I really, REALLY like you” after one or two dates.
This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves.
Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.
There's a much better way...
MISTAKE #6: Not "Getting" How Attraction Works For Women
Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.
You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.
But does the same apply for women?
Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their “attraction mechanisms” triggered by things OTHER than looks.
Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?
Think about it.
Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.
If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.
And ANY guy can learn how...
MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks
One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age.
And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.
But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.
There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet...
And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.
YOU DO NOT have to “settle” for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.
Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women
Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.
Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.
Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.
Another bad idea...
Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to Wussies!
MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each Type Of Situation With Women
Now I'm going to blow your mind...
A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.
Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.
I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.
And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!
And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating...
Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical... everything.
If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.
And you KNOW it.
It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman... from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.
MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP
This is the biggest mistake of all.
This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want.
I know, guys don't like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.
Hey, I've been there myself.
Let me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be successful with women...
About five years ago I became fed up with the fact that I didn't know how to approach, meet, and get dates with women that I was attracted to.
It frustrated the hell out of me.
One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn't get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night... right on the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating.
Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out.
I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. I've dated models, I've dated actresses, and I've dated nice, normal, regular girls as well.
It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling... like I don't know how to meet women... and I might wind up alone.
I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive women.
(source : http://www.lovehappens.com/tips/dating1.html)
Comments : Well, i read this article unintentionally and find it interesting. I almost done all the mistakes he mentioned to a girl. No wonder I cant get her attention last time. Maybe he is right, and maybe you are not agree with him, but i think it is not bad to take this article as a refenrence.. hehehe... Maybe i need to change myself how to deal with woman in future. LOL
By David DeAngelo
MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much Of A "Nice Guy"
Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted “nice” guys?
Of course you have.
Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date “jerks”... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.
What's going on here?
It's actually very simple...
Women don't base their choices of men on how “nice” a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.
And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.
I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT.
Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want.
MISTAKE #2: Trying To "Convince Her To Like You"
What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just not interested?
Right! They try to “convince” the woman to feel differently.
Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN “FEELS” WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, EVER.
You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with “logic and reasoning”.
Think about it.
If a woman doesn't “feel it” for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being “reasonable” with her?
But we all do it.
When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.
Bad idea. One that will never work.
MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission
In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's “approval” or “permission”.
Another HORRIBLE idea.
Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER.
Don't get me wrong here.
You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.
But if you think that treating a woman well means “always getting her approval and permission for things”, think again.
You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.
Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her...
MISTAKE #4: Trying To "Buy" Her Affection With Food And Gifts
How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did?
If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT.
Well guess what?
It's only NATURAL when this happens...
That's right, I said NATURAL.
When you do these things, you send a clear message:
“I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection”.
Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.
MISTAKE #5: Sharing "How You Feel" Too Early In The Relationship With Her
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they “feel” too early on.
Attractive women are rare.
And they get a LOT of attention from men.
Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME.
An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.
And guess what?
Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.
That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying “You know, I really, REALLY like you” after one or two dates.
This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves.
Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.
There's a much better way...
MISTAKE #6: Not "Getting" How Attraction Works For Women
Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.
You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.
But does the same apply for women?
Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their “attraction mechanisms” triggered by things OTHER than looks.
Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?
Think about it.
Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.
If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.
And ANY guy can learn how...
MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks
One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age.
And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.
But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.
There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet...
And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.
YOU DO NOT have to “settle” for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.
Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women
Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.
Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.
Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.
Another bad idea...
Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to Wussies!
MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each Type Of Situation With Women
Now I'm going to blow your mind...
A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.
Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.
I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.
And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!
And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating...
Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical... everything.
If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.
And you KNOW it.
It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman... from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.
MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP
This is the biggest mistake of all.
This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want.
I know, guys don't like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.
Hey, I've been there myself.
Let me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be successful with women...
About five years ago I became fed up with the fact that I didn't know how to approach, meet, and get dates with women that I was attracted to.
It frustrated the hell out of me.
One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn't get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night... right on the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating.
Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out.
I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. I've dated models, I've dated actresses, and I've dated nice, normal, regular girls as well.
It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling... like I don't know how to meet women... and I might wind up alone.
I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive women.
(source : http://www.lovehappens.com/tips/dating1.html)
Comments : Well, i read this article unintentionally and find it interesting. I almost done all the mistakes he mentioned to a girl. No wonder I cant get her attention last time. Maybe he is right, and maybe you are not agree with him, but i think it is not bad to take this article as a refenrence.. hehehe... Maybe i need to change myself how to deal with woman in future. LOL
Friday, January 19, 2007
Annual Dinner 2006
Well, even it was called Annual Dinner 2006, but in fact it was held only last friday 12th Jan 2007. Nothing much to mention about the dinner. In fact it was a bit bored. Agnes Yap and Chang Foo won the title of King and Queen of department. Anyway, i took quite some photoes there. Its still a memorable event i think.
Oh ya.. i won a can of Cambell mushroom soup =="
Thursday, January 11, 2007
一首无聊的诗
童声笑语乐庄门
金玉满堂珠璧承
福禄寿喜贺祯祥
岁岁年年至永恒
很久没写诗了。。 这首诗其实是写给Caroline的。。。 呵呵，看不出来吧，因为怎么看都像过年贺节的诗。。。上个星期去找她吃饭，结果她约了屋友，所以就只和她在车里聊天，就这样知道了她的中文名字。。。 她的中文名字叫庄璧祯。。。 呵呵，看出来了吧。。 诗的首3行最后第二个字垂直读下来就是她的名字了。。。 好像很无聊吧
不过应该就到此为止吧。。。 她应该是对我没有兴趣。。 而且，我也对于追求女孩子这种事很厌倦了。。 祝她早日找到好男朋友吧
金玉满堂珠璧承
福禄寿喜贺祯祥
岁岁年年至永恒
很久没写诗了。。 这首诗其实是写给Caroline的。。。 呵呵，看不出来吧，因为怎么看都像过年贺节的诗。。。上个星期去找她吃饭，结果她约了屋友，所以就只和她在车里聊天，就这样知道了她的中文名字。。。 她的中文名字叫庄璧祯。。。 呵呵，看出来了吧。。 诗的首3行最后第二个字垂直读下来就是她的名字了。。。 好像很无聊吧
不过应该就到此为止吧。。。 她应该是对我没有兴趣。。 而且，我也对于追求女孩子这种事很厌倦了。。 祝她早日找到好男朋友吧
My Birthday - 8th Jan
Well, i dont have any program at the day. LT called me during office hour from Singapore to wish me. We talked couple of minutes then she went back to work.
I tried to date Caroline out for dinner but she rejected me with a very relunctant excuse - She didnt have dinner with her housemates for many days and so, her housemates complained. I do really think she knows that i have some interest on her so she is trying to avoid me. Anyway, I dont really mind as I am used to this already. That was the third time she rejected my date, i think i really no need to waste time on her anymore. Just be friend is ok. Somemore, she cant give me such strong feeling as LT gave me before. But she is nice girl. I hope she can get a good guy soon.
Instead of Caroline, YS proposed to go dinner with me. We went to Tesco for dinner. She disclose that she wanna to find a rich, handsome and nice guy. I told her dont waste time to dream such thing as she is not really qualified ==" She argued that she just wanna to dream it, what a weird girl. I really dont know what she wants. She is not really pretty, but she rejected many guys that really outstanding. Faint.
Anyway, she bought me a pillow and a cup (what a weird conbination) as birthday presents. Thats the only present i received this year. I think i had no received birthday for many years already. Thanks.
I tried to date Caroline out for dinner but she rejected me with a very relunctant excuse - She didnt have dinner with her housemates for many days and so, her housemates complained. I do really think she knows that i have some interest on her so she is trying to avoid me. Anyway, I dont really mind as I am used to this already. That was the third time she rejected my date, i think i really no need to waste time on her anymore. Just be friend is ok. Somemore, she cant give me such strong feeling as LT gave me before. But she is nice girl. I hope she can get a good guy soon.
Instead of Caroline, YS proposed to go dinner with me. We went to Tesco for dinner. She disclose that she wanna to find a rich, handsome and nice guy. I told her dont waste time to dream such thing as she is not really qualified ==" She argued that she just wanna to dream it, what a weird girl. I really dont know what she wants. She is not really pretty, but she rejected many guys that really outstanding. Faint.
Anyway, she bought me a pillow and a cup (what a weird conbination) as birthday presents. Thats the only present i received this year. I think i had no received birthday for many years already. Thanks.
Cari Penang Children Protection Home Visit (7th Jan 2007)
Sunday I visited Penang Children Protection Home. This is another charity program organized by yusin through Cari Forum. Kee fetched me around 11pm and then yusin at her home. We reachedd Greenlane McD around 12noon. Many participants were already there waiting for us and started to surround yusin, LOL. We sit inside there and wait for the rest. As time passed more and more people joined us. Eventually it hit 30+ participants i think. Some of them I know but some are not. My ex-classmate Vincent joined us as well, with a beautiful girl Shenshen which is from UTM as well. As usual Vincent denied that she is his girlfriend, but the way they interact were suspicious.
We departed from McD to the Home around 2pm. Some of the children went out for tuition. There were around 13 chilren left i think. Some of them are young and some of them already in secondary school. The Home accept children that been abandoned by parents, or tortured by parents/guardians and raise them up until 18 years old. We played couples of games such as musical present passing and drawing contest. Yusin also prepared a lot of burger for them. Lot of participants donated toys, gifts, and even dolls for them. They looked so happy when receiving the presents. Honestly I would like go there often to visit them.
Early Birthday Celebration (6th Jan 2007)
Saturday kingfisher, Karen, Kenny, Caroline, Sagittarian and her boyfriend Jonathan celebrated early birthday for me. We went to Citibox in autocity to sing. They bought a cake for me. Its quite fun as i never celebrate birthday in such way.
After the sing is almost 9pm. Sagittarian, Jonathan, and Caroline went back. It was raining and me, kingfisher, Karen walked across 2 roads to BED with only one umbrella. All of us were wet. We thought we could take our dinner there. But unfortunately the kitchen of BED is not ready yet as it was just new opened. But the waitress there are quite pretty, LOL. Without choice we called Kenny to buy us McD and ate there. hehe... We homed after 11pm.
Tuesday, January 02, 2007
Xmas and New year count down
Its been some time after my last blogging. The terrible network speed due to Taiwan earthquake had made me so sick to access any site.
Well, last 2 weeks were xmas and new year festive season. Most of the people were in the holidays mood and not really keen to work already :)
Well, last 2 weeks were xmas and new year festive season. Most of the people were in the holidays mood and not really keen to work already :)
Xmas i count down with David and Junhern in pub, and fool around with few girls. Last saturday i had Japanese buffet lunch with my colleagues in Equitorial hotel as year end celebration. SUnday night i count down with Love forum friends at Gurney Plaza. I was been sprayed with bubble stuff until look like a snowman :p
Anyway, it was tired but fun :D
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